Everyone dreams of working through college in their 4-year program and then shuttling into adulthood with a career.
But what happens when you get thrown for a loop and your 4 year plan because a 4+ year plan?
The first thing I want to say is…
I know it sucks. It sucks so much. You want to scream and cry and punch a wall because now you’re entire life plan is shot.
I get it. I really get it. I’m 22 and just now finishing the half way point on my SOPHOMORE YEAR. And I started college straight out of high school.
So what happened that I fell off track?
Well, go check out some of my other posts about the First World Problem and then come back here.
So I had to take a couple years and work through some money problems and all that jazz. So here I am, about 3 years behind the curve and working to try to get things right.
Am I pissed off? Every damn day of my life.
Am I upset that I’m not graduated yet and not in grad school yet? So fucking upset that sometimes, I have to stop myself from crying in the middle of class.
Am I mad that I know other kids have it easier than me? Damn straight I am.
But what I am going to do about?
Well, I’m going to right about so that other kids going through this bullshit know that someone out there knows what it feels like to feel like an absolute failure and for life to keep kicking you in the teeth.
But how do you get back on track and make sure you stay on track?
Three easy steps.
- Come up with a course plan. Write down every single course you need to take and when. This is your road map. Sometimes you’ll have to take a detour, but it’s okay.
- Be prepared to fall off track again. Between you and me, when life decides to fuck with you once, you are never going to be let off easy again. So just be prepared to keep on failing.
- Don’t listen to what anyone has to say if they haven’t been there. Your advisers, while meaning well, will try to lead you astray because they honestly don’t understand what it’s like to be in the position you are in. You are in a very unique position and unless they themselves can tell you about how shitty their time at college was, then don’t trust them to know how to help you. Take their advice with a grain of salt and keep working.
So keep your nose to the grindstone and just keep working.
Is it all worth it? Probably not.
Will you probably regret finishing school in 10-20 years when you’re still paying off all the loans and you hate your career? Yeah, most likely.
But keep going anyways because then at least you’ll have a story to tell at the end of the day.